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10 Tips to Help Your Children Become Successful Adults
published at CuriousParents.com - May 2006
1. Discipline with the end in mind. Is your parenting style creating a healthy foundation for your child to build a positive self-esteem? What you are creating today will be waiting for you at the end of the line. Keeping in mind your relationship with your child is more important than any issue at hand.2. Provide opportunities for your children to be of service to others. There is no better way to feel good about yourself than giving of yourself and your love to others.
3. Find ways for children to be valuable at home, at school, in their community and for the world. Keeping yourself encouraged allows children to feel good about taking healthy risks in their life creating a successful future along the way.
4. Teach children to look inside themselves for their motivation, for the answers to their questions and for knowing their purpose and direction. Knowing what you want and going for it respectfully is key to their happiness.
5. Decide that being close to your children is more important than always being right.
6. Teach children that mistakes are wonderful opportunities for learning. Don’t scold or discipline a child for a mistake. Instead ask the child what could be something he could do differently next time? A healthy result focusing on taking responsibility for repairing mistakes without taking on any shame, blame, or guilt about themselves.
7. Set up “special time” with each of your children separately. Your genuine encounter moments add up creating the most cherished memories from their childhood. Give them the gift that only you can; the companionship of their own parents.
8. Help children become aware of their self-talk. If it is negative or discouraging, teach them to redirect their own self-talk to positive and encouraging.
9. Hand over age appropriate responsibility. Never do for a child something they can successfully do for themselves. Set your child up for success and not failure by doing the training up front first before letting go breaking down the steps one by one.
10. Teach self-reliance starting with small steps. Children need to feel supported and competent before they’ll take the risks they need to become more independent. Take time for training giving encouragement along the way no matter how small.
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